It’s Time For A Change
My Story, or How to Say Yes.
Sometimes I think the best advice we get comes to us days or even years before we are ready to hear it. In my case, the advice came so long ago that I can’t remember where I got it. “The only thing stopping us from achieving anything, is our propensity to answer every question with “no”, or “why”, instead of with a simple YES”.
In ‘09 I was living outside of NYC, working in the photo industry. My marriage hit a brick-wall and we both said, YES to letting it go. That was a limb for me to go out on. My ex-said, “go make art, and figure out what you wanted to do next”. (I’d left all my teaching gigs jobs in Philly, to move to be married).
The next big YES. I moved to a small town in the Adirondacks to figure out what and who I really wanted to be. Keene Valley has 200-yr-round residents. I made art, did new things like waitressing and housekeeping. I taught yoga, photo and even taught some people how to train their dogs. But the passion just wasn’t there.
“Ding, Ding Ding…”
I realised that I had to get back to the world-at-large if I wanted more than mountains, a handful of people to talk to, and a crazy-quilt of jobs. I took stock of what I liked about the place, and knew that I needed to trade hiding in the outdoors, for a life in the “real world”. I even made a pro/con spreadsheet to figure it out.
After years of planning and considering possible paths the real change took place within 7 days when I decided to say, YES to one key element and let the rest fall into place. I found my calling as a life coach when several friends pointed out that that was what I’d actually been doing for 90% of my working life. So I said yes, completed my certification and registration through the ICF and embarked on the path that brought me to Asheville.
It Doesn’t Happen Overnight
On the way to Asheville, I took a 4-yr. “overnight” in New Hampshire to expand my coaching business, and teach yoga and meditation for a large hospital system. I also developed a stress-reduction program for lawyers and found myself flying to NYC to give workshops in glass towers in sparkling midtown Manhattan. It was all amazing business-wise but I had zero life/work balance. So I knew it wasn’t the place for me to land quite yet.
So I go out on another limb and say YES to a move to Asheville, NC and I have not one whiff of a plan. I rent a house, sight-unseen, in a town and a state I’ve never been to. Held firmly in the belief that everything will work out because I am willing to keep saying, YES.
One thing you should know…..
9 months after I moved to New Hampshire and started an awesome job as a web developer, (read the blog post) I get laid off. It was a watershed moment. Life was demanding that I make the leap, jump in the water and start swimming as hard as I could for the life I wanted. No more settling for the safe thing or the sure thing. I was going for it!
So my part-time gig became my full-time coaching business. I said YES, trusted my heart, my passion and myself. The way I got from that teeny tiny mountain town to here was by saying, YES to what I really felt was true.
The Big Payoff
The thing about saying YES is that all your doubts and deepest fears show up for the party.
It’s harder than hiking the tallest mountain and a truer test of one’s-self than anything you can imagine. It is scary and hard and sometimes in the past year I have just sat on my back steps with my arm around my dog and cried from frustration. Just because something is scary and hard, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. In fact, the way you know you’re on the right path is that you meet all kinds of adversity…… and you keep going.
Resilience is Key
Resilience is about being able to get back up and moving when adversity knocks us off our feet. It’s about having the vision, strength, and tools, not just to rebuild our lives, but to redesign them.
It’s about optimal thinking, not optimism. And it’s about being able to take quick and effective reality checks so that we have an accurate gauge of what is happening and where we stand.
I invite you all to join me on a journey for us to build resilience and grow stronger.
We invited Amy to coach for our men’s fitness and health program and were consistently impressed with the way in which Amy so adeptly helped men on their individual journeys. Many of our clients have gotten back to us to thank us for the experience of working with her and have emanated gratitude for the the experience.
The way in which Amy spoke with me during our initial session instilled within me a real sense of urgency to love and care for myself out of a sense of pride. Her coaching has helped me to live it; not just speak it.
Every time I talk with Amy, I come away feeling that she has seen a deeper quality in me, appreciating something that others don’t understand about me. I thank her again for that. Ultimately, Amy got me to a place where I felt like I had action items that made sense for me.
I discovered new and helpful ways to problem solve in my day to day life. Amy helped me see things through perspectives I had never before explored. I found it much easier to handle stress in my life. Thank you Amy!
What Amy does feels organic and natural. She is a world class listener, who makes me feel what I have to say matters. I hope other people try Amy’s coaching and get as much out of it as I am, I leave feeling so positive and excited about each session and the changes I am creating in my life.
I love Amy’s energy as a coach and how she is able to roll with the punches, and convey acceptance while doing so. She introduced me to some yoga-based techniques and I know that there is actually neuroscience to support techniques like that, to support cognitive flexibility and shift. they were not techniques I was familiar with from my own training so I learned something new there, too.
Amy connects… Amy connected with everyone in our group, motivating each one of us to look at one’s life with a new clarity and reflection. She provides great tools to be successful in creating significant changes in life.
A question Amy asked in a workshop really connected with me…”How do I see myself in 10 years?” That made a difference because, if I don’t change and try to achieve my goals, I’ll be exactly the same in 10 years! Doesn’t make change any easier, but sure gave me the drive to put the changes into place. Thanks Amy!
I appreciate Amy’s thoughtful approach to life coaching. Amy created a foundation that seems very pragmatic and clear, leaving me as the client feeling confident in the process and of a positive outcome.
Amy is the kind of person who enriches the world around her. She’s not here to impress anyone with BS, she tells it like it is, real and raw. I’m a yoga instructor just getting started off on this part of my journey, and Amy has been a blessing in my life; such a giver. She helps me to see the big picture, and has the experience and perspective to give excellent advice without it feeling overbearing. I always look forward to our interactions as I know I will come away a better person.
Do you want to be resilient and live an Unstoppable Life?
I coach people to create and live fully into lives that make them feel truly unstoppable! I coach people into living their happiest most successful lives. That means short-term, practical coaching that allows people to learn, for themselves, the tools and skills to create an unstoppable life, from this day forward. I know what it takes to live the kind of life that is truly happy and fulfilled and I want to share it with as many people as I can, that’s why I became a life coach.