We’ve all tried to make resolutions and as humans, we’ve all failed at them, yet every year New Year’s rolls around and we trot out the hats and horns and some new resolutions we are determined to stick to. The problem with making resolutions is that they don’t work and by setting them we often set ourselves up for failure and the accompanying feelings of guilt and shame and disappointment.
I’m here to let you off the hook and give you some hard science to toss at those people who tell you that you just need more resolve or better will-power.
All that stuff is useless… Read on for the real data!
Will a life coach help? What do we do when we work with a coach? Why would I want to hire a life coach for myself, I mean…. really isn’t that selfish or a little silly? Actually hiring a life coach can be the single most personally and professionally productive thing you will do for your life and for your work.
Gregg Levoy is the author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion (Penguin), and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life (Random House) –rated among the “Top 20 Career Publications” by the Workforce Information Group and a text in various graduate programs in Management and Organizational Leadership. He is a former “behavioral specialist” at USA Today, and a regular blogger for Psychology Today.
“ Tell me about your childhood”.
That’s a question frequently heard in therapists’ offices the world over. Whether we are there to deal with a career that has us in a tizzy, or to handle the fallout from a death, divorce or some other life challenge, the questions digging into stories of “how I got here” are a commonplace when we engage therapists.
“Why would I work with a life coach”?
That’s a question I get a lot. Almost every day someone hears what I do and asks me, often in a voice tinged with some challenge, why people need life coaches and what I do as a coach. I love being asked the question because my answer usually isn’t what they expect.
“I’m a systems analyst, I look at where people are now (A), where they want be (B), and what’s not working in the process of getting from A to B. And then I help them get there”.
I was coaching a client yesterday and he said something that stopped me cold, and then I burst out laughing so hard I almost fell off my chair. There was a pause on his end of the phone and then I heard him laughing along with me. The penny had dropped and he heard exactly what he had said and had connected with how an old habit was sneaking into his new plan of action.