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The Blame Game

“It’s all your fault”!
“But you….”
“Well, you told me to”!
Blame sucks. Big-time.
And not for the reason you think.

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The Happiness Habit

Yah just never know…….
Cold morning
Lower back spasming ‘cause I pulled it yesterday.
Power outage this morning in the midst of writing a huge presentation for a bunch of stressed-out lawyers who hired me to teach them how to de-stress and here I am…

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Why You Can’t Keep a Journal.

If you aren’t a writer, trying to keep a journal can sometimes feel like torture- but it doesn’t have to be!
One of the biggest reasons that people don’t keep up a journal, (even when they are the types of people who absolutely love writing), is because they lose sight of the REAL benefits of journal-writing.
What’s the REAL benefit? Read on………

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Playing the Victim Card… Not

“We have to let you go and today is your last day here”. That was what greeted me when I walked into work one Thursday morning not so long ago. I was working as a web developer…

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Getting From A to B

We often move through our lives from point A to point B, without considering the journey in between. We move from bed to coffeepot, from house to office to store, from start of work to end of task often without considering or paying attention to the travel itself.

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Why Hire a Life Coach? Pt. 1

“Why would I work with a life coach”?

That’s a question I get a lot. Almost every day someone hears what I do and asks me, often in a voice tinged with some challenge, why people need life coaches and what I do as a coach. I love being asked the question because my answer usually isn’t what they expect.

“I’m a systems analyst, I look at where people are now (A), where they want be (B), and what’s not working in the process of getting from A to B. And then I help them get there”.

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True Generosity Includes Connexion

At a recent week-long group retreat I learnt something interesting about generosity. It was suggested that we all meet for a group dinner at a local restaurant on the last day. People…

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What Is a Life Coach…. Exactly?

What Is a Life Coach…. Exactly?
This is a question that I get asked on a regular basis and I love it because people really want to know what I do for a living, and we often get into a deeper discussion about what is possible to change in our lives and I’m here to tell you… I think the sky’s the limit! Seriously!

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Lost on The Memory Trail

We splashed our way through the prior night’s rain puddles. My dog Velo dove headlong into the shrubbery following the scent of rabbits all along the ridge. About a half mile in we met a true NC local man in coveralls and really tall rubber boots. He was carrying some huckleberry buckets and stopped to chat with me…

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How to Boost Your Confidence

Feeling confident is about really knowing your own strengths and abilities and knowing how to bring those into play no matter what happens. It’s about feeling deeply connected to our own core values and our capacities to be creative in the face of major and minor adversities. In many ways it can allow us to feel totally unstoppable in our lives. Keep reading for ways that you can start to boost your confidence today…

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Whoooo Are You

“Whoooo are you, who-who, who-who”? I love that quote from The Who- it gets at one of the questions we’ve all ended up asking ourselves from time to time and it has an interesting answer every time because…

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Do I Need a Life Coach?

Will a life coach help? What do we do when we work with a coach? Why would I want to hire a life coach for myself, I mean…. really isn’t that selfish or a little silly? Actually hiring a life coach can be the single most personally and professionally productive thing you will do for your life and for your work.

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Resource: Visiting Author Gregg Levoy

Gregg Levoy is the author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion (Penguin), and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life (Random House) –rated among the “Top 20 Career Publications” by the Workforce Information Group and a text in various graduate programs in Management and Organizational Leadership. He is a former “behavioral specialist” at USA Today, and a regular blogger for Psychology Today.

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Coaching Vs. Therapy… Which Do I Choose?

“ Tell me about your childhood”.

That’s a question frequently heard in therapists’ offices the world over. Whether we are there to deal with a career that has us in a tizzy, or to handle the fallout from a death, divorce or some other life challenge, the questions digging into stories of “how I got here” are a commonplace when we engage therapists.

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How To Choose A Great Life Coach

I was coaching a client yesterday and he said something that stopped me cold, and then I burst out laughing so hard I almost fell off my chair. There was a pause on his end of the phone and then I heard him laughing along with me. The penny had dropped and he heard exactly what he had said and had connected with how an old habit was sneaking into his new plan of action.

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The Butterfly Effect

Every morning, every minute, every time we step out of our houses to go do anything, and actually every minute we stay in our houses we also have choices that we make that shape the rest of our day. The key is to see that we have a choice each moment we are alive. The power is in knowing that while we may not always like the choices we have, we do have choices.

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What Do You Mean I’m Wearing Plaid?

I have a friend who recently lamented to me that women keep leaving him. He was truly puzzled by this behaviour, and to anyone just meeting him, I could see why they’d also be surprised. He’s a smart, sexy, outdoorsy guy who is sweet and kind and thoughtful. He went on to say that he’d had a few longer-term relationships but each and every one of these women had either walked away or departed with harsh words that left him reeling and bewildered.

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It’s All in The Way You Say It

I don’t know about you, but I love having choices and when I can understand that the thing I am telling myself is only a story I’ve made up, I get the choice to discard part or all of it in an attempt to see the reality in front of me.

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The Art of Apologies

It’s nothing new.
We’ve all done things to apologise for. From the careless comment to the unwelcome advice or thoughtless action, each of us has at one time or another felt a need to apologise to another human being.
This recently happened to me.

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What To Expect When You’re Not Expecting…

Let’s get this clear at the outset- I’m not talking about having a baby.
I’m talking about what happens when we give up our expectations.
It happened to me this past weekend, and caught me completely off guard!
My expectations deserted me completely, without a word, without a wave goodbye, without so much as a, “thanks it’s been great and you’re a terrific person”!

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When Doubt Crashes Life’s Party

I was having one of those days where the sinking feeling rolled over my head just about the time my coffee was ready in the morning and I was glad of having a machine that made 3 cups at a time.
You know the feeling right?

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Give Yourself a Quick Yoga Break

Sometimes there just isn’t enough time in the day to do a full practice. Or you have done your daily practice and want to add a few specifics in to work on balance or flexibility.
Here I offer a few very simple 5-10 minute practice specifics for you to try.
You can download the PDF as well. Look for the link at the end. ?

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Hey! There’s A Squid on Your Face

A number of years ago I had a teacher who started out a seminar by greeting each of us with this statement, “Hey! there’s a squid on your face”! It caused a bunch of laughter and some puzzled looks as we all stared first at him, then at each other, each of us trying to see this “squid” he was talking about.

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The Gift of Perspective

Sometimes it is easy for us to see where we are getting stuck in our own perspectives, our “stories ” and patterns of habit. At other times it is much, much harder. We often don’t understand that we aren’t actually seeing “the truth and nuthin’ but the truth”, until someone else points it out to us.

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Spring-Cleaning For Your Body

The simplest changes to make will also help improve your mood, help rev up your metabolism and help you stay healthier- fewer colds/flu,etc…They also will help even out moods and keep you feeling happier and more positive. with lots more energy for all sorts of things. read more to get help with the life-habit changes that will help your effort stay sustainable and enduring.

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A Coach on Every Corner

What the hell was going on here? Had I somehow unknowingly landed in the land where coaches go to die? Or was there some wealth of population so in need of help that all the coaches on the planet somehow magically were drawn to live in this city? And what kinds of coaches were these?

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How To Stick To Your New Year’s Resolutions… For Good!

We’ve all tried to make resolutions and as humans, we’ve all failed at them, yet every year New Year’s rolls around and we trot out the hats and horns and some new resolutions we are determined to stick to. The problem with making resolutions is that they don’t work and by setting them we often set ourselves up for failure and the accompanying feelings of guilt and shame and disappointment.

I’m here to let you off the hook and give you some hard science to toss at those people who tell you that you just need more resolve or better will-power.

Hoohee!

All that stuff is useless… Read on for the real data!

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